The Law of Genetic Poverty and Others

Business coach from St. Petersburg Natalya Grace (Наталья Грэйс) has published a book in which she has formulated several laws that operate in every person's life, and whose knowledge, acceptance and correct interpretation helps in dealing with various difficulties. Some of the laws might be debatable, but here are a few that, in my view, do work.

 
  
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The Law of False Kindness

We only think we are helping by solving other people's problems. We are merely intensifying them. When we forcibly drag someone to be treated for an addiction - alcoholism, for example - we only prolong their agony and waste our own time. They will start drinking or using again, and we will regard them as an ungrateful swine before whom we cast pearls. A person must solve their own problems themselves. They will grow and develop as a person only to the extent that their arsenal of problem-solving techniques grows.

The Law of the Magic Word

It turns out that the magic word is not "PLEASE" but "NO". Many problems could be avoided if people learned to refuse. Not to waste time on communication that exists purely out of empty politeness. Do not lend money if you do not wish to. That is far better than tormenting yourself with doubt about whether it will be returned or not.

Give only what you can or wish to give as a gift - but do not wait and hope for the debt to be repaid. There is a saying: want to lose a friend, lend him money.

Moreover, an interesting phenomenon occurs: when a person refuses with reasoned arguments, it raises their self-awareness and their self-respect grows. Yet people are afraid to refuse because they fear they will be disliked or unpopular.

The truth is - you cannot please everyone. Learn to calmly endure other people's negative emotions as a reaction to your refusal. If you simply say "NO" right away, finding arguments for refusing will be easier. Refuse lightly!

The Law of the Absence of Ideal Conditions

There will never be sufficiently ideal conditions or circumstances. Sometimes, of course, they do arise - but it is very hard to catch that moment, and harder still to use it to one's advantage. Partly because the best and greatest opportunities in life are hidden precisely within the problems that need to be solved.

The Law of Thought Attraction

A person who is in our proximity makes us think about them, even if they are of no interest to us. This is a great risk if worthless or malicious people are in our vicinity.

The Law of Genetic Poverty

Consider: why are dirt, slovenliness and disorder inseparable elements of poverty? These elements do not characterise a hardworking, clever or resourceful person. One is forced to conclude that poverty is not an unfortunate coincidence of circumstances, but rather the person's own mentality. Poverty and filth begin in the mind, and only then are they reflected in the surrounding environment and way of life.

Have you ever seen the scene in some home where a white but already dust-covered dinner service sits behind glass - for guests or the next generation - while the mistress of the house herself drinks from a cracked mug or a cup with a chipped handle? Those who live in anticipation of the future will never see it arrive. That is why it is shameful to be dirty, shameful to be shabby, shameful to be poor.

A person who saved money for twenty years for a small country cottage, economising at the expense of clothes, sweets for the children and attending events, found - when they finally bought it - that nobody needed it. Especially the children, who had long since grown up and remembered only a childhood without sweets, without concerts and without games. They now reproach the parents for failing to teach them to find joy in everyday things, to savour life in its small details (sweets, music, a new hairstyle, etc.), and for having accumulated a range of complexes - fear of spending money on themselves, going about untidily, putting things off for a rainy day, not making the home comfortable. All of this has already transformed at a purely genetic level. The person no longer sees or creates beauty around them.

Wealth is a state of mind, and poverty is a state of mind. By putting yourself in order, you can put your surroundings in order - and vice versa: nothing good will grow or take shape in a disordered environment.

Sources used:
http://fit4brain.com/4569
http://fit4brain.com/5559
http://www.nataliagrace.ru/